So today was book character day at the library. I woke up early to brainstorm and ended up thinking that the boys would wear their Halloween costumes from last year.

NOPE! They wanted to be Sonic the Hedgehog and Link from Zelda.

linkReally? Link from Zelda! What was I to do? Well, we do have a shield and I have some leftover clown makeup so that was a start. My middle guy is pretty sensitive to what others think so he wanted to be kinda specific. To make him look like Link I had to take a green shirt turn it inside out and add some brown sweat pant for leggings. Then paint on some blue earrings, no problem!

Shield? Check. Sword? Really?! What can you do with 1 hour left?

I make a sword out of cardboard and wrap the “blade” in silver duct tape and use black duct tape on the handle.

Now the hat… this is not a simple green hat oh no it’s like a hippy beanie type combo. After racking my brain for a bit I put a rubber band on the bottom of a green shirt then safety pen the sleeves shut and turn it inside out. Put in on the crown of his head voila! Epic win!!!

sonicNow onto Sonic! Blue shirt, blue shorts, a pair of white old time gloves and a winter sonic hat with spikes. Almost there… Ah ha! Some clown makeup and we got this!

The younger two, one mine & one a friend’s, were supposed to wear a Thomas the Train and Hulk costume. We head off to the library with a piece of toast, my breakfast, in one hand and double stroller in the other. 4 kids & 1 mom! We arrive right on time, a true rarity, and the oldest hurry to sit down for story time.

After story time we move onto the crafts and this is wear momma bear wants to punch someone in the face or at least say, “Hey lay off! Have you walked in my shoes?” Not out of anger but hurt, I have been sick for a week and it took a lot if energy and will power to get there! Didn’t she know that?!

The kids are busy crafting and one mother says to another, indicating my kids, “What are they supposed to be?” I just laughed like I didn’t hear her because my 2 yr old, Thomas, was feeding the 9 month old, Hulk, frosting from his finger. It was a real party! 😉

The 2nd mom was like, “Well… I think that one is Sonic and that one is Link.”

~~~PAUSE~~~
I know not everyone is cool enough to know these characters, but if your childhood was awesome or you had a brother you know who they are.
~~UNPAUSE~~

To which the 1st mom responded with, “Are those even from a book?” The 2nd mom, I think trying to be polite, said, “I think Sonic is a comic? But I’m not sure.” To which the 1st replies, “Does that even count? This is a book character party.”

REALLY?!?!? It was super rude and my kids were right on the other side of the table! I looked up quickly to see if they heard. My 8yr old was already worried about being made fun of. They didn’t hear, thankfully, they were busy having fun.

Who do you think you are to question little people’s ideas? They used their imaginations to make these last minute costumes and they were happy! I see your cute princess in a store bought Belle costume all cute and playing, yes she is a book character but from a book written in 1740 made famous by a Disney movie. I wonder did she pick it and have you read the original book to her?

A side note for some, Sonic is a character in MANY new books as well as a comic! Link I’m not so sure about, but does it really matter?!?

It bugs me that she was so super judgmental! I try being graceful and go back to the children in front of me, but my heart fell a bit. I felt like crying a little. There was so much she didn’t know.

We need to be careful with our words!

She didn’t know that I had been having eye trouble for a month. She didn’t know that I had been living like a vampire for the last 5 days because of the eye pain. My kids been been in a darkened home and we played zombies and forts because I couldn’t take them to the pool, or bike rides outside to play till later in the evening. Today was the first day I had been able to wear contacts and even then I had to put on my sun glasses before going outside and take them off once inside.

That 15 blocks from our house to the the library was quite a stretch for me. Why did I take them? I wanted them to be able to go to this event because I didn’t want them to miss out on anymore fun because of me!

What’s my point? Why couldn’t she just say “that’s creative?” Better yet applied the rule immortalized by Thumper in Bambi, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.”

What happened to having grace and compassion for other women? Why can’t we build each other up? Why can’t we learn from 1st Corinthians 13:4-7?

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Where is the understanding? Have we not all had days like these? You’re doing good and then BAM another female tears you down?

Here are some encouraging ideas from Lysa TerKeurst over at Proverbs 31 Ministries.

Please be kind with your words especially around children! They can never be taken back and they can hurt!

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