First I’d like to say I am a breastfeeding promoting mom all day long but I want to strangle some people there. You should be reaching out to others in love and help them! NOT judge and do the run around of read this, try this, eat this, take this see you next week.
I HATE the pretense of women who had “perfect” breastfeeding experiences. They are VERY few who actually have that and cause a lot if guilt and frustration among other women. If your not willing to help your friend stick her breast in the babies mouth and coach her through it, then keep all your advice,”help” and opinions to yourself!
I have had 3 (breastfed) boys and no one tells you it its going to hurt like heck and smart your nipples when they latch properly. In fact if I was not the type A stubborn personality that I am I might have given up on my 3rd child. You read that right my 3rd not my first. With the first 2 yeah it hurt, I carried cherry chapstick in my bra to deal with the chapped nipples that occasionally had a bit of bleeding. However my 3rd was not latching properly and even the lactation consultant cleared us to go home. I think God for the nurse who saw me struggling and decided (probably secretly) to come into my room and show me the nipple shield! She also told me about the different sizes and how ideally you go from the large to the small to nothing at all. I also had to shape my nipples and that was frustrating.
Once you get the hang of breastfeeding it is a great experience and it is beautiful, and so very worth it. However the mother who cant or is struggling is still a wonderful mother and loves her children just as much! Also never use the phrase “did you even try”?
This is one really great example of someone who tried and was frustrated for no reason!
Here are a few articles I like as well
We also need to step back from assertions that every mother can breastfeed, if she just tries hard enough. As Neifert has written, “The bold claims made about the infallibility of lactation are not cited about any other physiologic processes. A health care professional would never tell a diabetic woman that ‘every pancreas can make insulin’ or insist to a devastated infertility patient that ‘every woman can get pregnant.’ The fact is that lactation, like all physiologic functions, sometimes fails because of various medical causes.”
I understand that breastfeeding is an emotional and political subject. I understand that LLL and other breastfeeding advocates are fighting against an often hostile culture. There’s a war going on, but I feel like a victim of friendly fire.